Asexy Queer

rosified: omg that tattoo is amazing

Sat, 18 May 2013 02:20:39 +0100

omg that tattoo is amazing

Resources for asexual survivors of rape and sexual assault

Fri, 17 May 2013 20:54:26 +0100

(Obvious trigger warnings apply to the whole post, although there’s no graphic discussion of anything. If you don’t want to see this on your dashboard, I will be tagging everything related to this project with ”resources for ace survivors,” so you can blacklist that. )

I’ve decided that one of my summer projects is going to be assembling a resource list for asexual spectrum survivors of sexual assault and rape. I’ve seen the lack of such a resource mentioned several times online, and also had several conversations in person about the necessity of such a resource. Although we don’t have any official numbers (that I know of), anecdata suggests that it’s not uncommon for aces to be sexual assault survivors (and to receive rape threats fairly regularly). It’s also not uncommon for ace survivors to be afraid of reaching out for help (because of fear that their therapist will try to “cure” their asexuality, because they don’t know where to find resources, etc.). So resources need to exist.

That said, this is probably a ridiculously huge undertaking, and if I did all of it by myself it would A. probably not be as good as I’d like and B. not have as many resources as I’d like, since (despite what my professors think) I cannot read everything in the world.

Here’s where you come in:

If you have suggestions for things you’d like to see on the list (how to find therapists, lists of helplines, how to deal with PTSD on your own if you can’t get therapy, etc.), please let me know. I really want to tailor this to what people would find most helpful. Heck, if it would be helpful to include information on how to supportive of someone who’s a survivor, I can see what I can pull together.

On the other hand, if you have suggestions for any resources that should be included in the list, please let me know. I don’t know of any resources specifically for ace survivors, but if you know of any good resources (whether general audience or LGBTQ-specific) that could be adapted, I want to know about them. Also, I know how to find support on college campuses, but not a lot about community resources, so any information on that would be greatly appreciated.

If you are a survivor and are willing to give advice or share anything that you think others would find helpful (even if it’s something as simple as “this is how I deal with panic attacks”* or “I wish I had known ____”), my ask box is open and anon is on. I can also turn on submissions, if that would be helpful. I will not publish asks without your explicit permission. (Also, I reply privately to non-anon asks.) Alternatively, you can email me at queenieofaces@gmail.com. I understand how hard it is to talk about this stuff, and no one should feel pressured into sharing anything. Only contribute if you feel comfortable doing so. (And if you don’t want to contribute but still want to talk to someone, my ask box is open.)

Basically, I’d like this to be the best resource possible, and since all of you are brilliant, I figure that anything you contribute will be brilliant. If you contribute in any way, I will include you in the list of contributors to the resource list (unless you would prefer not to be identified, in which case I will still include you as “anonymous”**).

If you would be willing to signal boost this post so that more people can know about it and contribute, that would be greatly appreciated. I’m not going to pull the “if you really care, you’ll reblog” card, ‘cause if you really care, you’ll take care of yourself, whatever taking care of yourself means to you. Again, if you don’t want to see this on your dashboard, I will be tagging everything related to this project with ”resources for ace survivors,” so you can blacklist that.

So, yeah, I think that about covers it. LET’S DO THIS THING.

*I recently learned that lying down and putting an ice pack (or bag of frozen peas, if you don’t have an ice pack) on your face (specifically across the bridge of your nose) will often help with panic attacks, because it triggers your “dive reflex,” which slows down your heart and respiratory rates. SCIENCE.

**Alternatively, I can make up a ~~silly~~ fabulous pseudonym for you.

anarcho-queer: Read In Between The Lines, There Was An Uprising...

Fri, 17 May 2013 11:40:21 +0100

anarcho-queer:

Read In Between The Lines, There Was An Uprising In Guantanamo Bay Yesterday

After a mass hunger strike by 44+ of the 166 detainees that started Feb. 6th and years of peaceful resistance, prisoners at Guantanamo Bay have had enough of the torture, indefinite detention and horrid conditions. The lawyers of the inmates insist that the hunger strike in more widespread and nearly every person at the prison is refusing to eat.

Inmates covered security camera’s and windows and used broomsticks, mop handles and makeshift batons made up of tape and water bottles to clash with guards.

The violence erupted during an early morning raid at Camp 6 when guards attempted to end communal living and place all inmates in single cells. According to military officials, guards shot 4 ‘non lethal’ weapons at the inmates, 1 of which was injured. Though this should be taken with a grain a salt considering that Guantanamo Bay is where the military is known to torture inmates.

It should also be noted that 87 of the prisoners at Giztmo are cleared for release and 46 other prisoners cannot be prosecuted for a ‘lack of evidence’ according to the U.S. government. In other words, over 80% of the inmates being held at Guantanamo Bay would otherwise be free.

In January of 2013, Obama signed the NDAA 2013 which allows him to indefinitely detain American citizens without charge or trial, which is literally contradicts the constitution, and banned the government from closing Guantanamo Bay.

oddson: “Shipwreck” by Chris...

Fri, 17 May 2013 00:45:16 +0100

oddson:

“Shipwreck” by Chris Pureka

http://youtu.be/aPng-_UlWZE

Fuck yeah, feminists!: 6 Tips on How to Avoid Being Screwed by a Non-Profit

Fri, 17 May 2013 00:18:57 +0100

Fuck yeah, feminists!: 6 Tips on How to Avoid Being Screwed by a Non-Profit:

youngist:

By Jade(d)

So you’ve just graduated from college and you want to change the world. Good for you. The non-profit sector seems like a natural place for a justice-minded person such as yourself, and nonprofits are almost always hiring because the turnover rate is so high….

lotv: I hope this makes some of you in a better mood. Because...

Fri, 17 May 2013 00:08:30 +0100

lotv:

I hope this makes some of you in a better mood. Because I’m feeling quite over the day. But this helps a bit.

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Thu, 16 May 2013 23:48:22 +0100

unfollower: no see lesbians are not more accepted than gay men they’re more sexualized please do...

Thu, 16 May 2013 23:42:16 +0100

unfollower:

no see lesbians are not more accepted than gay men they’re more sexualized please do not get those 2 things confused

babyshibe: stuff to remember: exams may feel like the absolute be-all and end-all of everything but...

Thu, 16 May 2013 23:27:00 +0100

babyshibe:

stuff to remember:

exams may feel like the absolute be-all and end-all of everything but you will probably not die if you fail one

there are ways around most educational routes

there is a plan B the vast majority of the time

very few people perform at their best in exams and they are not perfect modes of assessment

a lot of skills can’t be quantified by exams in any meaningful sense

actual academia is nothing like doing exams

retakes exist

your worth as a person is not determined solely by your ability to do exams

dogs will love you even if you have no qualifications at all

babyshibe: the thing that fucks me off most is how unlike academia exams are exams: 2.5 hours in...

Thu, 16 May 2013 23:25:47 +0100

babyshibe:

the thing that fucks me off most is how unlike academia exams are

exams: 2.5 hours in which to regurgitate as many memorised proofs as possible

academia: working shit out, with whatever resources and results you need provided you cite them properly, to a deadline but one that is a lot longer than 2.5 hours

what is the point of how our exams are formatted

greekgogurt: i wish i was an iceberg because icebergs dont have to go to school or have crushes on...

Wed, 15 May 2013 21:38:21 +0100

greekgogurt:

i wish i was an iceberg because icebergs dont have to go to school or have crushes on people they just float around destroying things

'White backlash' revealed at Scotland Yard

Wed, 15 May 2013 00:38:28 +0100

'White backlash' revealed at Scotland Yard:

tipsforradicals:

SCOTLAND Yard is experiencing a “white backlash” from its own officers who are furious at the time “wasted” on diversity issues, a shocking internal Met Police report has found.

A worrying complacency about race has seeped into all echelons of the Metropolitan Police, the report says, adding that the lessons from the Macpherson inquiry into the murder of black teenager Stephen Lawrence in 1993 risk being forgotten.

The Met’s Diversity Heath Check report found many officers believe “white, heterosexual males were being passed over for promotion” and that there is a “growing antagonism towards diversity” in the force.

In terrifying and unsurprising news…

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Tue, 14 May 2013 23:21:45 +0100

allthingshyper: animeasuka: WHY DID WE NEVER TALK ABOUT...

Mon, 13 May 2013 22:35:46 +0100

allthingshyper:

animeasuka:

WHY DID WE NEVER TALK ABOUT THIS

Jessica Rabbit is having none of your sexual assault

Thou shalt not fuck with the Ninth Doctor.

Fri, 10 May 2013 23:26:39 +0100

"Growing Up Wrong You were not wrong in first grade when Jordan Marshall gave you an ultimatum and..."

Fri, 10 May 2013 23:22:10 +0100

“

Growing Up Wrong

You were not wrong in first grade
when Jordan Marshall gave you an ultimatum
and you chose to kiss him
so he would finally stop chasing you.

You were not wrong in fifth grade
when you decided to explore your body
in ways no one would talk about,
even though your step-dad caught you
and taunted you.
You didn’t know what a lesbian was,
but the way his accusations danced around you
made you feel like it was the dirtiest thing you’d ever be called.

You were not wrong in sixth grade
when you wanted to go out with Derek Dunn,
and his response was to tell the entire grade
that you were too flat-chested,
so he’d fuck you and run.

You were not wrong in seventh grade
when you pushed your boyfriend away
every time he stuck his tongue in your mouth.
You were not a bad girlfriend
for trusting yourself more than you trusted him.

You were not wrong in eleventh grade
when you couldn’t stop thinking about Danielle Bakerson,
about how your entire life changed when you saw her in the school play,
even though your best friends abandoned you
and made sure you knew you were a “disgusting lesbian.”

You were not wrong in your final teenage year
when you wanted to take your shirt off at the beach
and change your name to reflect your essence,
even though your childhood friends told you
they didn’t agree with who you were
as if your personhood were up for debate.

You have never been wrong,
for you have been taught that your body is not your own.
You have been cornered and poked and prodded and shamed.
You have been made to feel like you were made for someone else,
for anyone else,
for everyone else.
But darling,
you were made for you
and those who made you feel otherwise
have wronged you.

”

- Tyler Ford (tylerthelatteboy)

For anyone who wants a personal, physical copy of this poem, it’s available on canvas panel in my Etsy shop!

(via tylerthelatteboy)

slay-z: the-mtn: Remember when Lady Gaga made a music video where she killed her boyfriend and...

Thu, 09 May 2013 23:16:01 +0100

slay-z:

the-mtn:

Remember when Lady Gaga made a music video where she killed her boyfriend and everyone called her a genius?

Well, remember when Rihanna made a video where she killed her rapist, and the media was, “This is too violent for mainstream airplay.”

That is called RACISM IN THE MEDIA.

irrationalwitch: pottercolours: friendly reminder that when oliver wood addressed the gryffindor...

Thu, 09 May 2013 22:26:52 +0100

irrationalwitch:

pottercolours:

friendly reminder that when oliver wood addressed the gryffindor quidditch team as ‘men’, angelina johnson called him out on his sexist and misogynistic bullshit by reminding him there were women on the team too, and he listened to her without question ✿◕‿◕✿

#he’s a keeper

papa-swamp: Life would be a lot better if people stopped using raisins in home baking

Thu, 09 May 2013 22:06:06 +0100

papa-swamp:

Life would be a lot better if people stopped using raisins in home baking

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Thu, 09 May 2013 22:04:35 +0100